Monday, February 6, 2012

He's the ONE!

     With Valentine's Day coming up, I wanted to talk a little bit about L-O-V-E and some of my thoughts on the subject! I am no expert, but I have been around awhile and seen some things in life.
       How does it happen?? How do we find that "One" that we are to share our life with?  When I was a young girl, I dreamed about what "Mr. Right" would be like. I was quite the romantic heart and my teachers always wrote on report cards, "Lori is a good student, but tends to daydream way too much!" That is probably true!
      I wasn't looking for someone when my husband came into my life. I had married right out of high school to someone much older. I think, looking back on it, it was more of just wanting to grow up too fast and get out on my own. That seems to have been the driving force. Nevertheless, it wasn't a happy marriage at all from the start and we divorced.
      I had always prayed for the Lord to bring "Mr. Right" into my life. I shared with God all of the qualities that I wanted him to have and when I was 19 and divorced, those qualities that I had prayed for were a strange, seemingly unattainable and distant memory. I just wanted to know that God still loved me, I didn't care about finding anyone else to share life with.
      It was not long after that I met "The Love of My Life". Now, we didn't either one of us know that then, we just became  friends and had many things in common, plus we were the same age and most importantly, we both loved the Lord! He lived in another state and so the visits were few and far between, but the friendship was the BEST! A few months after meeting, he asked me to go to dinner with him and he would drive the 500 miles to take me. I accepted with some fear. I didn't want to ruin our friendship, but over time love grew instead. We have been together for 26 years this Valentine's Day, and married for 25 years coming in May. I cannot imagine what my life would have been without him!! He is every bit of what I prayed for, daydreaming out on my parents front porch swing when I was about 14 years old. God was listening all the time!! I have often thought that if I would have just been patient and waited on God's timing, the scar and pain of divorce would not have ever happened. I hope to convey how important the "waiting" is to our children.
     Our kids are getting to the age where they will soon be finding that "Miss Right" for Jordan and those "Mr. Rights" for Lindsay and Heather. I do not know all of the qualities that they are looking for in a mate, but God does.  Chris and I have prayed for God's guidance on each of our children's lives and the lives of the ones they choose to marry since they were babies. Somewhere growing up in the world today are those kids! We have prayed for them and their families, for their upbringing and for the Lord's hand to be on their families and in their hearts, as well as bring them into our children's lives when the time is right for each of them. I have full confidence in this!! Their is so much sadness and disillusion in the world today over what marriage is and what a true commitment to another human for life takes. We have raised our kids to know that their are going to be amazing days of joy, hard times of grief and sorrow and mediocre days of just getting through. They have seen us argue intensely, love immensely and support unconditionally. They know there have been rough times, but they have seen a marriage grounded by God's presence at every meal, in conversation, in illness and job change. We have tried to cover all the bases we can. There will be things that they encounter in their own walks, but that is the "stuff of life" and it colors our story. 
     Our son (in college) Facebooked me the other day and told me that he was ready for the "bag" over his head to come off and for God to bring his "Miss Right" around.  He has been praying for her for a long time and looking forward to the day! I facebooked him back and told him 3 words...SHE IS COMING! I don't know when and I don't know who, but I know God is getting them ready to meet. That is exciting! He is a wonderful young man and I know will be a great husband and father one day. He is attentive and compassionate, Loves God wholeheartedly and has a great smile!
     Our oldest daughter is a Junior this year and Prom is around the corner. She has the dress and the shoes and looks beautiful in it! She does not have a date though. Her reaction? It is fine if she doesn't get one, she will have fun with her friends anyway. She is beautiful and a very responsible young woman! She loves the Lord and is also praying for the time when God brings along her "Mr. Right". Our youngest daughter is just getting started praying for her "Mr. Right". She has a tender heart and I know she will take her time. We stress to them to let God do the looking and for them to be patient while they wait.
     I do not know if there is a "Magic" way to know if someone is "The One", but I do know that if you trust the Lord to bring them, He will do it for you or if you have them, for your children. Don't ever be afraid to bring your wants and desires to the Lord, (Psalms 55:22 says, "Cast all your cares on Him for He cares for you." That verse doesn't say maybe, it is a promise!)  If you have "The One" that God blessed you with, thank God for them and lift them up in prayer every day! We are our Best when God is at the center of our lives and the lives of our spouses or loved ones. I know....we pray for each other every day, won't you pray for yours!?!  

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